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    Where We Belong

    I am disappointed in you is the message I tried my entire life to avoid, and it had companions that showed up regularly to keep me on my toes: It’s never okay to be yourself and People like us don’t…

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    Do You Know How to Be Yourself?

    In the introduction to Free from Lies, Alice Miller describes a survey she commissioned in 2002 that asked 100 mothers at what age they thought “they might begin impressing the necessity of good behavior on their children by giving them…